The wedding soundtrack

When Socs and I were planning our wedding, we never really entertained the idea of how to entertain our guests (pun intended). Going with a “show” band was not us. String quartets here are generally disappointing. So we were pretty much sold on the idea of iPod entertainment for the reception.

That made looking for songs the main task. No mushy romantic music for us. We wanted something new, edgy, and off the wall. Luckily while I was in the US for an assignment, my car had XM radio so I was able to tune in to the music industry and get the ball rolling. I also commissioned Beverly Marquez to send some recommendations of the sounds that I liked.
I also frequented the website http://www.weddingmusicblog.com (the website seems to be down, Google the link and look at the cached site) and got some pretty good songs from it.
Despite being ok with iPod music, Socs and I were open to having a “wedding singer”. We have an officemate who belongs to a band but were not quite sure if he was the sound we were looking for. Then he posted an acoustic rendition of Fake Plastic Trees by Radiohead, and we knew he could pull it off. So I hand picked a selection of songs from our seed of around 40 songs. We initially wanted only a single singer, but he said it would be better to have 2 singers/guitarists. He suggested a friend of his and sent us a “demo”, he fit the bill so we gave the go ahead. Awesome duo, once I heard the first song play during the reception I knew they would rock it. They come highly recommended.
Even with a “band”, I knew my initial cut of 40 songs would not do it. It lacked cohesion and order. Enter my friend Novis Lagunay. I knew he was a music buff and after attending his wedding, he was definitely the man to ask for help. I told him our concept, sent him my list of songs, he messed around with it a bit and provided me with pretty much the playlist that was played during the entire night. Excellent job Nobs!
So for those who might be interested, here is the playlist from our night:
Cocktails:
311 – Love Song
Afghan Whigs – 66
Alice In Chains – No Excuses
Better Than Ezra – A Lifetime
Better Than Ezra – At The Stars
Boys Like Girls – Hero/Heroine
Dashboard Confessional – Vindicated
The Fray – How To Save A Life
Incubus – Are You In
Lemonheads – It’s About Time
Lifehouse – Make Me Over
Maroon 5 – Won’t Go Home Without You
Owsley – Good Old Days
Powderfinger – My Happiness
The Script – The Man Who Can’t Be Moved
Sister Hazel – Change Your Mind
Sister Hazel – All for You
Splender – Monotone
Splender – Save It For Later
Sugarcult – Memory (Acoustic)
Train – Drops Of Jupiter
Dinner:
Anberlin – A Day Late (Acoustic)
Anberlin – Dismantle. Repair. (Acoustic)
Anberlin – Inevitable (Acoustic)
Anberlin – The Unwinding Cable Car (Acoustic)
Athenaeum – What I Didn’t Know (Acoustic)
Better Than Ezra – Desperately Wanting (Acoustic)
Boys Like Girls – Let Go (Acoustic)
Boys Like Girls – Two Is Better Than One
Counting Crows – Mr. Jones
Dave Matthews Band – Lover Lay Down
Death Cab For Cutie – I Will Follow You Into The Dark
Foo Fighters – Everlong (Acoustic)
The Fray – Never Say Never
Gavin DeGraw – Follow Through (Stripped Version)
Gavin Rossdale – Love Remains The Same
Incubus – Drive
INXS – Afterglow
Jack Johnson – Better Together
Jack Johnson – Flake
Jason Mraz – I’m Yours (Acoustic)
John Mayer – No Such Thing
Matt Nathanson – Come On Get Higher
Newton Faulkner – I Need Something
Nixons – Sister (Acoustic)
Plain White T’s – 1,2,3,4
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus – Your Guardian Angel
Rico Blanco – Your Universe
Sister Hazel – Best I’ll Ever Be (Piano Version)
Sister Hazel – All For You (Acoustic)
Stereophonics – It Means Nothing
Sugarcult – Memory (Acoustic)
Toad The Wet Sprocket – All I Want (Acoustic)
Vertical Horizon – Sunrays And Saturdays
Zero 7 – Destiny (Acoustic)
The John Abrenica and Mito Romualdez band (not the real duo’s group name heheh). Songs from what I distinctly heard they played
Ben Folds Five – The Luckiest
Chris Cornell – Thank You
Foo Fighters – My Hero (Acoustic)
Outkast – Hey Ya (Scrubs Version)
The list we sent them included:
Cynthia Alexander – Walk Down The Road
Dashboard Confessional – Even Now
Dashboard Confessional – I Do
Dashboard Confessional – Stolen
Death Cab For Cutie – I Will Follow You Into The Dark
Evanescence – My Immortal
Evan Dando/Lemonheads – How Will I Know
Hedley – For The Nights I Can’t Remember
Parokya ni Edgar – Your Song
Pearl Jam – Breathe
Rico Blanco – Your Universe
Rise Against – Swing Life Away
Staind – Zoe Jane
Train – If It’s Love
William Fitzsimmons – Good Morning

second wind.

For a time I didn’t know how to proceed.  I knew what Allan and I wanted, but I didn’t quite know how we could get things moving in that direction.  We had all these ideas, but somehow it difficult to make things concrete.  There were major things that needed to be acted upon and something had to be done.

So, act on them, we did!

First of the things we did was change the reception venue.  Yes, we’ve said goodbye to the lovely and cosy Filipinas Heritage Library.  It was one of the toughest decision we had to make.  We were back and forth on it, until we just said, yes, we’re changing.  Our main reason really is that the weather is very difficult to predict, and having an outdoor venue may mean stress for everyone involved if we were to second guess how things will be on the day of the wedding.  We had the option of putting up tents, but that ruins the feel of the Courtyard for us.  We could move to the Reading room, but that would be too small for our guests.

So we booked Top Shelf at Fully Booked High Street. Yup, Fully Booked.  I’ve tried to google and search the usual sites for wedding held there and have found none.  That could be an advantage or a disadvantage, depending on how you look at it.  I’d like to think of it as something fun and something different.

Then we had to change our Wedding Coordinator.  I am all for Polly, our original coordinator, but she has asked her former coordinator, mentor and future business partner to take over.  We completely understand and we have no issues with it.  Especially since I’ve spoken to Amy Gotianse (of Forever and a Day) and we’re just as happy with her being our coordinator.   One of the first things she wants to do is check out our venue and then we’ll take it from there.

My most recent talk with a supplier was with our invites, Katrina Valenzuela from Village Projekt.   I don’t recall how I found her Multiply site but when Polly said I wouldn’t go wrong with Trina, I didn’t hesitate.  She has actually sent me two designs for our invites already but I’ve informed her of the change in venue, and given her a better idea of what we were imagining the wedding to be so she’s taken that and will work on something else, just to give us options.

My main hurdle in the past was trying to put everything together and not fully communicating them to my suppliers I think.  And then I realized, whats the point in finding established and creative suppliers if I don’t feed off of their ideas and their expertise?  So thats what I did, I spoke to them and told them what we were thinking.  In the end, I’m a lot more energized and positive about where the wedding planning is going.

what to do?

I’ve attended my fair share of weddings and have even been part of the ceremony and reception at one point or another. I’ve also endured a few embarassing moments of desperately trying to get myself omitted out of ‘single ladies’ games to avoid further embarassment. When I participated in my first bouquet toss at my brother’s wedding at the age of 16, I was surprised to find that unlike what hollywood movies show, the ladies weren’t fighting for the bouquet…everyone wanted to avoid it.

However, I have to recognize that some may not share the same sentiments. After all, there are some great laughs and stories resulting from these games. It may still be worth playing the usual games.

Now that I’m planning my own wedding reception, I can’t seem to decide on what we should do for the program. I would love to honor the traditional Bouquet and Garter toss…except that I keep thinking back to women stepping as far away from the bride when her back is turned. Other games like variations of ‘Musical chairs’ remind me of blue garters being tossed as if were on were fire from one guy to another.

I’d like my guests to genuinely enjoy the game and not have to be called five times and dragged to the center just to join in. If you were a guest at my wedding, what would you like to participate in? Drop me a comment or vote using the poll on the right hand side!

Details, details, details

I just made the necessary financial commitments to another one of our suppliers for the wedding yesterday. We’ve finally settled on booking K by Cunanan as our caterer after joining our friends Karlo and Mabelle for their food tasting.

I’ve seen sample setups and read good reviews about them on the net, and after tasting their food as well as seeing their setup first hand I knew we had to get them. Plus the fact that they fall right into our budget doesn’t hurt.

Now comes the details…

Socs and I have only a vague idea of what our theme is and the inspiration for our reception. We are leaning towards a Mediterranean/Greek/Cyprus inspired reception from our time together in Cyprus. I definitely loved the ambience and food there (reached my goal of 150lbs with the help of good old Greek cuisine), I hope the caterer can help out in materializing our mental images.

It all seems to be getting pretty serious now and decisions have to be made. Up until now (or in the next few weeks) I have only reserved the necessary suppliers for our date. No discussions on anything yet. After talking stuff over with the caterer, I believe I need to coordinate with the venue as well. Then don’t forget about the prenup… I need to gain 5lbs here (gym buddy anyone? ehehe).

Woohooo! Groomzilla on the way!